Reese Witherspoon graced the cover of Glamour Magazine for their January issue and the mom of three shared a lot of insight into her life as a mother.
She began by revealing what she would teach her 15-year-old daughter, Ava, about being a woman. “To not be ashamed about any of her experiences. To live life fully, with curiosity and love, and to be brave.” She also said she would teach her sons, Deacon and Tennessee, the same thing.
The 38-year-old had Ava at 23, and gave key advice about when the best time for women to get pregnant. “Pick the best day for when your entire life is gonna change. There’s no good time to have your world turned upside down… No one tells you to grieve the loss of your privacy…”
The actress said she didn’t think there’s been an hour of her life, since Ava was born, that she doesn’t think about her kids. “I call it my CNN ticker tape,” she says.
Witherspoon was asked what advice she would give her 23-year-old self. “All those things that you’re worried about are not important. You’re going to be OK. Better than OK. You’re going to be great. Spend less time tearing yourself apart, worrying if you’re good enough. You are good enough. And you’re going to meet amazing people in your life who will help you and love you…. I don’t think I realized [in my twenties] that no one else makes you whole. You have to take responsibility for your own happiness. That took me until I was about 31 to know. It wasn’t easy to realize, Oh, wait, I am purely responsible [for my life]—no relationship, no children, no nothing is going to make you a happy person. Every day you have to choose to find and cultivate your own happiness.”
The Oscar winner even talked about the importance of having close friends. “I am so, so lucky to have girlfriends who, when I was on the floor crying, upset about things that happened in my life, came over, stood me up, put me in the shower, put my clothes on, took my kids to school, brought me dinner. You know? I love my girlfriends, and I protect those relationships fiercely.”
The star also credits her supportive husband, talent agent, Jim Toth for her healing process. “Well, I have to say a very healing part of my life is my wonderful husband, Jim. It’s really wonderful being with somebody who supports me, who loves me, who is my number-one fan. That is such an incredible experience. You have to be ready for those things. I had to be in a place where I felt all those things about myself.”